I’m at the Orange Conference this week, and I’m blogging notes from breakouts and main sessions. Here are my notes on the first main session…

Main Session 1

This year’s Orange Conference is all about phases. Phases of a kid’s life and the uniqueness of each.

Reggie Joiner

Reggie Joiner

  • It’s just a phase, so don’t miss it.
  • It’s easy to miss things that are happening in a kid’s life as they go through phases. They don’t know how to ask about it.
  • Kid’s have different questions at different phases.
  • Words to help identify each phase
    • Preschool – Embrace
    • Elementary – Engage
    • Middle School – Affirm
    • High School – Mobilize
  • We don’t remember what we don’t remember.
  • Every kid is made in the image of God.
  • Jesus taught us that when we welcome kids, we welcome him.
  • We don’t anticipate what we don’t anticipate.

Jim Burns

  • Love every kid like they’re wired to pursue love.
  • Even with the depth of pain some kids struggle with, those issues do not define their destiny.
  • The more positive, healthy sex education a kid receives, the more likely they are to make wise choices in that arena.
  • 25% of adolescent girls experience depression within 3 months after first having sex.
  • Help kids have a healthy view of sexuality from early on.
  • Embrace Stage (Preschool)
    • Talk to them about their bodies.
    • God made you.
    • God made your body.
  • Engage Stage (Elementary)
    • They’re curious – where do babies come from?
    • Talking about this early on can help fight against sexual abuse.
  • Affirm Stage (Middle School)
    • The average kid sees pornography for the first time at age 11.
    • Introduce a purity code and help them guard their eyes and heart.
  • Mobilize Stage (High School)
    • Keep the purity standard high while showering them with grace and acceptance.
    • God created sex and he sees it as very good.
    • Don’t commit adultery (God wants the best for you).
    • Run from immorality, not from healthy sexuality.

Jon Acuff

  • We may only get to be one verse in the song of a child’s life, but that verse matters.
  • It’s not a matter of if they will talk about their identity, it’s a matter of will they talk about it with you.
  • You’re accepted. You’re perfect. You’re created for a bigger story.
  • You can fast forward childhood, but you can’t rewind it.
  • We need leaders to be brave.
  • Stories get stuck, unless leaders get brave.
  • Be brave enough to be honest where you are.
  • Be brave enough to run into somebody else’s story.