I’m at the Orange Conference this week, and I’m blogging notes from breakouts and main sessions. Here are my notes on the first main session…
Main Session 1
This year’s Orange Conference is all about phases. Phases of a kid’s life and the uniqueness of each.
- It’s just a phase, so don’t miss it.
- It’s easy to miss things that are happening in a kid’s life as they go through phases. They don’t know how to ask about it.
- Kid’s have different questions at different phases.
- Words to help identify each phase
- Preschool – Embrace
- Elementary – Engage
- Middle School – Affirm
- High School – Mobilize
- We don’t remember what we don’t remember.
- Every kid is made in the image of God.
- Jesus taught us that when we welcome kids, we welcome him.
- We don’t anticipate what we don’t anticipate.
- Love every kid like they’re wired to pursue love.
- Even with the depth of pain some kids struggle with, those issues do not define their destiny.
- The more positive, healthy sex education a kid receives, the more likely they are to make wise choices in that arena.
- 25% of adolescent girls experience depression within 3 months after first having sex.
- Help kids have a healthy view of sexuality from early on.
- Embrace Stage (Preschool)
- Talk to them about their bodies.
- God made you.
- God made your body.
- Engage Stage (Elementary)
- They’re curious – where do babies come from?
- Talking about this early on can help fight against sexual abuse.
- Affirm Stage (Middle School)
- The average kid sees pornography for the first time at age 11.
- Introduce a purity code and help them guard their eyes and heart.
- Mobilize Stage (High School)
- Keep the purity standard high while showering them with grace and acceptance.
- God created sex and he sees it as very good.
- Don’t commit adultery (God wants the best for you).
- Run from immorality, not from healthy sexuality.
- We may only get to be one verse in the song of a child’s life, but that verse matters.
- It’s not a matter of if they will talk about their identity, it’s a matter of will they talk about it with you.
- You’re accepted. You’re perfect. You’re created for a bigger story.
- You can fast forward childhood, but you can’t rewind it.
- We need leaders to be brave.
- Stories get stuck, unless leaders get brave.
- Be brave enough to be honest where you are.
- Be brave enough to run into somebody else’s story.